A Loving Left With Me: a Bibliography of Books on Death & Grief for Children and Teenagers
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Fox, Paula. The Eagle Kite. New York, N.Y.: Richard Jackson, 1995.

Liam's father is dying of AIDS, which has separated the family consisting of Liam and his parents. His mother tells Liam that his father contracted AIDS due to a blood transfusion, but Liam had seen his father with another man years earlier and knows that his mother is lying. This information has poisoned Liam against his father, but comes to a form of acceptance by the end of his father's life.

PARENT AIDS

Franklin, Kristine L. Lone Wolf. Cambridge, Mass.: Candlewick Press, 1997.

Perry and his father live in virtual isolation in the woods after his mother left them following the death of Perry's little sister in a car accident. The novel shows how a family can fall apart after a death. Perry's father copes by cutting himself off physically and emotionally, and Perry follows his example. Perry's friendship with the new neighbour, Willow, and her family triggers his memories. He finally releases his grief over his sister's death, his mother's leaving, and his father's emotional distance and current physical absence. During this period his father is also coming to terms with his loss and becoming more open.

SIBLING ACCIDENT

Gootman, Marilyn E. When a Friend Dies: a Book About Teens About Grieving and Healing. Minneapolis, Minn.: Free Spirit Publishing, 1994.

Simple, straightforward and concise chapters are designed for dipping into and reading quickly. The book includes quotes from teens who have lived through the experience. It also includes advice on finding a counsellor or therapist, and whether or not one is needed.

PEER NON-FICTION

Grant, Cynthia D. Shadow Man. New York, N.Y.: Atheneum, 1992.

Gabe McCloud dies in a car accident, he was driving drunk and not wearing a seatbelt. Each chapter is told by different people including: his brother; his father; his girlfriend; his ex-teacher; his uncle; there are also extracts from letters he had written for English. The book shows how a death can impact on a community. The beginnings of healing are shown in the end of the novel, with a link made between Gabe's father and his girlfriend.

PEER ACCIDENT

Grollman, Earl A. Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers: How to Cope with Losing Someone You Love. Boston, Mass.: Beacon Press, 1993.

Concise, straightforward information, with minimal text on each page. This book is concerned mainly with how teenagers may feel after the death of a loved one. The emphasis is placed on understanding the feelings and working through the grief. The final chapter In Loving Memory contains worksheets to help teens describe and work through their emotions.NON-FICTION

Grosshandler-Smith, Janet. Coping When a Parent Dies. New York, N.Y.: Rosen Publishing Group, 1995.

A very straightforward guide to the emotions felt when a parent dies, written by a counsellor, who has survived the death of her husband. She writes honestly of her experiences through this period. Topics discussed include: the stages of grief; religious beliefs; counselling; funerals. Interspersed among the information are first person interviews.

PARENT NON-FICTION

Hathorn, Libby. Thunderwith. Boston, Mass.: Little, Brown and Company, 1991.

Australian

Lara goes to live with her father, whom she can barely remember, after the death of her mother. Lara has to adjust to a different lifestyle, one with a hostile stepmother and little half-siblings. Lara's passage is made easier by the existence of Thunderwith, a dingo-looking dog. When Thunderwith is shot and dies, Lara can feel the presence of her mother closer than before, comforting her.

PARENT CANCER

Haughton, Emma. Dealing With Death. Hove, U.K.: Wayland, 1995.

A basic, realistic guide to death and bereavement. Topics discussed include information on the legalities and ceremonies after death. There are different chapters on: Parents; Brothers and Sisters; Grandparents; Friends; Facing Your Own Death; Coping with Bereavement.

NON-FICTION

Hyde, Margaret O. and Lawrence E. Hyde. Meeting Death. New York, N.Y.: Walker and Company, 1989.

This book is also recommended for the 7-12 Age Group.

Designed for teenagers and older children this book provides information about the concept of death, grief and mourning, and the treatment of death in different cultures. Chapters are: Meeting Death; Ghosts, Superstitions, and Celebrations; What is "Dead"?; Death and the Children; Dying the Good Death; Death by Suicide; Playing God; Caring for the Dead; Grief and Mourning.

NON-FICTION

Jones, Vince. Fifteen Plus and Sunburnt. Melbourne, Vic.: Longman Cheshire, 1993.

Australia

David is diagnosed with melanoma soon after the death of his friend, Gary, from the same disease. More than this issue is dealt with, as David is trying to decide his future and career. Gary's friends had distanced themselves from Gary, as his illness progressed, which is realistically shown. David's cancer is diagnosed and treated in time. Gary's situation was far more difficult and results in legal action, taken by Gary's mother, against the doctors.

PEER CANCER

Katz, Welwyn Wilton. Out of the Dark. New York, N.Y.:, Margaret K. McElderry Books 1996.

A difficult book, in which memories of Ben's dead mother are hidden due to Ben's denial and refusal to remember the events surrounding her murder. Set two years after her murder, the book begins when Ben's father has moved the family to Newfoundland from Ottawa, Canada. Ben distances himself from his family and the small community, creating hostility towards him. Ben imagines himself to be Tor, a Viking settler in Vinland. Tor's imagined life and Ben's real life become entangled, finally allowing Ben to work through his grief and guilt at his mother's murder.

PARENT MURDER

Kelleher, Annette. Pumpkin Head is Dead! Hunters Hill, NSW: Margaret Hamilton Books, 1999.

Australian

Fingula and her family are recovering from the death of her father. Now they are living on the street, escaping the violence of their mother's boyfriend. During this time Fingula's brother befriends Nigel, or Nark. Fingula and Nark have an antagonistic relationship. In the aftermath of one of their fights Nark drives off and crashes. Fingula blames herself for his death, and falls into a depression. Her mother helps her see her way out of the depths and on the way to recovery.

PEER ACCIDENT

Krementz, Jill. How it Feels When a Parent Dies. London, U.K.: Victor Gollancz Ltd, 1983.

This book is also recommended for the 7-12 Age Group.

This book is made up of first person interviews and narratives of children who have had a parent die. The ages of the children range from 7 to 16, with parents who had died two months to seven years ago. Each child has their own story to tell about how they coped and their emotions. Some parents died after a long illness, one committed suicide and others died in accidents. The best thing about the book is that it reassures children that they are not alone, that there are others who have been through it and survived.

PARENT NON-FICTION

Kuklin, Susan. After a Suicide: Young People Speak Up. New York, N.Y.: Putnam Sons, 1994.

A collection of interviews with suicide survivors, either family of suiciders or those who have contemplated or attempted suicide. The book is hard-hitting and honest.

NON-FICTION SUICIDE

Laird, Elizabeth. Loving Ben. New York, N.Y.: Delacorte Press, 1989.

Anna is 12 when her brother Ben is born with hydrocephalus. Anna loves Ben and spends a lot of time with him, until he dies when he is two. The family dynamics changed with Ben's birth resulting in Anna and Katy, her 7-year-old sister, feeling left out. When Ben dies Anna's life changes. Each member of the family cope in different ways, Katy has a large amount of guilt as she had had the least patience for Ben. Anna begins to baby-sit for Jackie, a little girl with Downs Syndrome, using her experience with Ben. One day Anna takes Jackie to the cemetery and sees Ben's grave. Jackie plays in the cemetery, which Anna believes is just what Ben would have liked.

SIBLING INFANT DEATH

L'Engle, Madeleine. A Ring of Endless Light. New York, N.Y.: Laurel Leaf, 1995.

Vicky Austin has had a difficult year - it seems that death is more prevalent than life following the deaths of a family friend, the mother of a friend, a young girl, and one of the dolphin pod she is befriending. Added to this is the slow deterioration of her beloved grandfather, the depression of a friend following his wife and children's deaths in a car accident, and the suicide wish of a friend, following his mother's death. Towards the end of the novel it has all become too much for her and she falls into a depression, albeit brief. It is the work of her grandfather and friend, Adam, and the dolphins which bring her out of the mood. Touches of fantasy are throughout the novel, specifically the psychic communication between Vicky and the dolphins, and Vicky and Adam.

GRANDPARENT ILLNESS